Finding Balance: How to Hold the Hard Things and Still Have Fun
What Does Resilience Really Mean?
Resilience is a complex and multifaceted concept that encompasses an individual’s ability to cope with and adapt to challenging situations. It involves the capacity to bounce back from adversity, maintain a sense of purpose and identity, and find meaning in the face of difficulty.
Reviewed by Davia Sills, this thought-provoking article explores the intersection of resilience and joy, highlighting the importance of play, fun, and laughter in maintaining our well-being.
The Power of Play and Joy
As children, we naturally gravitated towards play, often without any particular goal in mind. We reveled in the simple pleasure of it. Yet, as we transition into adulthood, many of us stop playing, relegating it to the realm of ‘childish’ pursuits.
However, research suggests that playfulness can improve mood, contribute to stress coping, and increase flexibility and resilience when faced with challenges. The heavier the season, the more we may need those small, deliberate pockets of lightness.
Intentional play can be a powerful tool for coping with difficult emotions and experiences. By making room for play and joy, we can find small ways to let a little more light in, even in the midst of darkness.
Reclaiming Joy and Play as Adults
So, what might it look like to make a little more room for play in our grown-up lives? Here are some practical ways to reclaim joy and play:
- Reconnect with childhood passions and interests: What was something you could do for hours as a child? Whatever comes up for you may serve as a good indicator of what might feel playful and enjoyable for you today.
- Try something new: Seek out a new hobby or activity that might bring you joy and fulfillment. Give yourself permission to be a rookie at something new.
- Create a playful environment: Make it easier for play to happen. Keep playful tools and materials accessible.
- Schedule time for play: If it is always something you’ll get to ‘when you have time,’ it may never happen. Try putting a small block of play on your calendar and honor it as you would any important meeting.
- Get outside: Whatever happened to recess? Nature is our first playground. Spending time outside and reconnecting with the natural world can help us step away from our usual routines and make space for physical, cognitive, and emotional renewal.
- Try a playful pattern interrupt: Invite a little more play into the moment. Share a laugh, play a silly game, take a spontaneous side quest, or find another small way to shift the energy.
By incorporating these practices into our daily lives, we can find ways to make room for play, joy, and connection, even in the midst of challenging circumstances.
Conclusion
We don’t have to choose between acknowledging what’s real and the weight of what’s difficult, and making room for the things that bring us joy. We can hold both. By embracing play, joy, and connection, we can find the strength and resilience to carry us through even the toughest times.